Over Forty Wellness Podcast

"Mindful Intimacy" with Viv Kan

April 09, 2023 vincent Season 1 Episode 109
Over Forty Wellness Podcast
"Mindful Intimacy" with Viv Kan
Show Notes

Viv Kan was born in Hong Kong and educated in Canada. As a Mindful Intimacy Coach, Viv helps busy individuals transform their intimate relationships by connecting the mind, body, breath, and Yoni & Lingam. She is a trained practitioner of Yoni & Lingam massage and offers mindful intimacy coaching for women, men, and couples. We go into detail in the podcast of how Viv helps her clients reconnect to themselves and also their partners.

 Viv is an accomplished speaker having delivered a TEDx talk at the 2021 Hong Kong Mental Health Conference. She also creates corporate wellness programs as a Mindfulness Life Coach focusing on Sleep, Stress, Mindfulness, and Mental Wellbeing to help employees perform at their highest potential and prevent burnout. Viv tailors her wellness programs to elevate wellbeing -  working with individuals, couples and groups. We discuss "Mindful Intamacy" and corporate wellness  in the podcast. 

 Timings
3:48 I was born in Hong Kong and raised in Canada – Toronto – I moved back to Hong Kong … I feel …at home …in Hong Kong.
6:53 I burned out from a fairly stressful job… the environment here is …claustrophobic… I don’t see Hong Kong as home for the long term… I’m half between here and Thailand…
5:43 In my Yoga Teacher Training … I transitioned to corporate wellness… mindfulness… stress…sleep…
9:35 Nobody talks about mindfulness in the bedroom …in relationships… I help you stay mindful at work and in the bedroom… helping people reconnect to themselves and to their partners…
11:06 I teach people to be mindful with each other… to have better relationships…
12:29 Most of us are distracted … most of the time… environment…habits…
14:02 The first question … is growing up did you have good examples of healthy romantic relationships… 
17:44 We over sexualize touch…
18:26 What is their intention – For coming to see me…
19:15 13 different things with “Intmacy” that people do … I give bite sized practices… get them to do some of the exercises… 
21:50 I combine communication with body work … If they are booking a “Tantric Bodywork” with me … Yoni and Lingum massage… a warm up everyday…
25:18 Women are not given the time to warm up… it takes around 40 mins…The whole massage session takes around 3 hours…
28:01 I recommend a Queen’ and King’s night… it’s not transactional…
30:19 [Session length] It depends what they choose… and the individuals…
32:17 [Lingum massage] Any type of Tantric Massage the last thing we get to is the genitals… I always include prostrate massage… we often underestimate the pressure on men…
36:30 [How can people help themselves]…
43:48 [Overcoming a challenge]...The burnout… Starting my own business… Transitioning …a TEDx Talk… putting the talk together…
46:10[Staying on Top of Things]… a tough one… I focus on what am I grateful for… Meditation…
49:10 [Passions] I love holding mental and emotional space … seeing people transform… healing people…

MTR Quote “There is no Wellness unless there is Sexual Wellness”…

 Contact Viv
IG : mindfulintimacy
https://www.mindfulintimacy.co
https://www.kanelevate.com
IG : vivkanwellness
https://www.linkedin.com/in/kanvivian/

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 Useful info
https://www.gottman.com/blog/building-great-sex-life-not-rocket-science/